Rich like a white man

A study on my husband’s success and the steps for you to get it too!

Beginnings are hard.

The purpose of this book is not to get a bestseller. The purpose of this book is to shine the light on what I have witnessed from working side-by-side with my multi millionaire business owner husband so without all the theory, you have a easy digest that will get you out of the hole you may be in without having to spend years shadowing him yourself.

This is not quick fix book, this book is a window into the reality of what a member of the the 1% lives life like, without the filters.

My main goal is to hear success stories of people who didn’t seem to see the light at the end of the tunnel and spend too much time watching motivational videos on instagram without getting anywhere. With his experience and knowledge he has impacted the life of many employees who grew from entry level positions to trusted managers or partners. I want to hear your story next. When you finish this book, shoot me an email to mar@mardeshayes.com and let me know how it went!

1. Why this, why now

Every day I have lived with my husband and he said or did something incredible, I thought to myself: “the world needs to know this”, “if only more people did things like you, the world would be a better place”. I observed and waited until after dinner or days later and then I asked: “remember the other day when you managed to acquire a company and move a manufacturing operation to a second location in less than two weeks, how did you manage? What went through your head? How come you didn’t get stuck? Questions like these promoted thinking and he will then tell me the answers of questions he never asked himself. Some of the answers are very general, some are very personal. And with his permission, I am now sharing them with you so you can learn to think like the successful white man he is.

2. The elephant in the room

The color of his skin and his gender are completely irrelevant, and I’d like for all my readers to keep that in mind. Statistics don’t lie, historically speaking white men rule the world in power roles. Nonetheless, here is the story of one of them, you can decide if his success is due to the color of his skin or everything else… or both.

3. Tell me if you agree

Here are to the point the 8 secrets that summarize his success and the core of this book to be:

1. High pressure mentality: He was forced to do farm labor as a child from the moment he can remember. Many of the stories he tell us are how he had to pick green beans from the fields with his back bent over for hours at a time. Then he had to carry those big sacks of produce, and peel the ends off carefully until of the tips of his fingers were almost peeling off themselves. All these things forged who he became. I am not suggesting by any means to force your children into hard labor, but if you’re reading this book, you need to put yourself in that position mentally. Not only a day or two, he spent over 35 years doing hard work. 

   Whatever you choose to do, you will face the crude reality of the previous paragraph. You have to put in the work! 

2. Takes care of the machine: regardless of the stage of life where he was, he always pays attention to his fitness or health the best way he could at that time. For example, on top of managing 23 stores and 4 different product lines, he is a full time triathlete, which involves nutrition, recovery and training.

3. Insane Focus: granted, he has been called “rude” one too many times because when people talk to him he tends to ignore them. What people do not know is that his brain has zero space for empty content. He simply cannot do small talk or pretend to be a friend to a stranger. On the same boat, he does not waste time at work with distractions, he is insanely focus with the task at hand until it is done.

4. Love for numbers: nature or nurture? I cannot attest for the nature part, but nurture had a lot to do with it. While doing work at the farm, his brain was able to visualize numbers, and those green beans became the best teachers. He knew that a plant of beans had 1/2 lb and there were so many plants per row and there were so many rows per field. Then there were so many minutes per plant and then hours in the day. So he had to thing three dimensionally since he was a very young child. Now he has multiplication tables tattooed on his brain to three digit numbers. If you ask hi what’s $3579 times 3, 10 or per hour in a year, he will answer within the next 5 seconds.

5. Boring consistency: he eats the same dishes and wears the same clothes, goes to the same restaurants every two weeks… forever!

6. Trust himself: he makes a decision, and sticks with it. From simple choices like: what color of appliance to buy, to what to name an LLC.

7. Do not ever give up: we have days at work where everything goes wrong, and the thought of giving up comes to mind. He lets his emotions out, and then gets back to it, day after day.

4. Join me in the journey

If you’d like to be part of the team that makes this book happen and if you happen to have gotten this far, shoot me an email at margives100@gmail.com with your opinion and feedback, if you want to make the time.

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5. Ignore me completely

If you hate reading, and don’t agree with what I am saying, I’d like to hear your opinion too. Just keep it polite, I’ve thin skin (not really, but act as if).

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